How to CORRECTLY Wear the Condom

P/s: ini entry 18 SX.. if ready n takde nk terasa or hav any bad impressions on me bole bace, if tak sila jangan. TQ

Ok, it is now proper for me to talk of this since da mula ada pengalaman *blush* but this is serious matter. Ramai yg accidentally ter-conceive eventho the couple not yet ready financially, emotionally and physically. So it can cause a tremendous amount of distress to the couple. And this can affect the child too. 

So contraception is strongly advised at ALL times in cases like these.

Check out my frens' nye pengalaman.

 Like me and Luqman, we are unable to provide for the baby  if we were to have one within this 1-1steng year ni cz of the demanding nature of our future jobs (housemen) and also the lack of time and attention the newborn may (or may not get). Also, if i get pregnant and bersalin, nk amik cuti sume.. i will hav to extend me living in the hospital limbo.. blerrgh~

And also my preggy HO frens kate dun mimpi la nk dpt days off (or good hours off) cz so wat u preggers, u be on ur feet 20-22 hours a day and dats it! And of coz tdo 2-3 jam je. Sian weh anak aku cmtu. Dahla zat tak cukup maknye tak sempat makan,xsmpt rest.. mintak simpang..I obviously wanted the best for my (insya-Allah) future child.

Anywho just a word of caution:

Check the labels, JANGAN pakai yg da expired. Latex dier rosak koyak kang.

Then beforehand make sure ur hubby takde allergies to latex (u too) by doing a patch test 12 hour prior and look for signs of gatal2 naik ruam etc.If allergy, try finding a polyurethane one or alternative contraceptives.

Always keep ur condoms in a dry, cool place. Like jgn la ltak dlm keta yang parking tga2 panas terik. Condoms hates heat. Keeping one in ur handbag and ur hubby's wallet seemed a good idea "in case emergency urges crop up"

NEVER:

1) use the same condom twice

2) using petroleum based lubes like vaseline (use water based like KY jelly and Durex' Play series-these are most widely available and affordable too!) cz it will weaken the latex tu.

3) double layering ur condom. Dun thk double layer means more protection, u will cause friction between em and they r prone to tear up.

4) have long figernails wen handling em or using the teeth. like duh~

So step-by-step:

1) make sure ur hubster is FULLY erect. Tear open the packet carefully and if he wants an extra ummpph, u can masukkan ONE drop of lube on the inner side before pakai kan to him.

2) Pinch the teat. This will prevent air collection which can bubble up and cause it to burst open when extra pressure is applied, like an over blown balloon. Also this is the place for the semen to collect later on.

3) Slowly unroll it onto the shaft whilst STILL pinching the hujung. this will ensure a good fit.Roll down to the base of the penis tau.

4) After ejaculation, dun stay in for long. (10 saat ok lagi la) .. just make sure he is still rather hard and ask him to hold the base of the condom while pulling out of u. This is to make sure takde tertumpah inside u. Then slowly take out and wrap in tissue trus buang. JANGAN re-use. If nak sambung lagi satu session, tear open a new piece, ok.

As for choices of ribbed dotted ke ape ke.. i cmpared and honestly i thk MEMANG ADE rase diffrent. Dotted one paaaling intense. Ribbed is one step higher sensations thn the plain ones. 

However my hubby say even the Durex extra thick ones pon dun feel as much diffrent as compared to without wearing one. Its the position at the moment that makes the diffrence the most.

So guys, mmg takde alasan tamau pakai okay.. sayangi la isteri kamu. 

If malu nk bli kat kedai or amik free kat Klinik Kesihatan Kerajaan (yes, u bole daftar and amik provided ada surat nikah yg sah) ..bole bli online 

1) Sekondom

2) Condom003

So stay safe and have fun,ya! Hee~

Credits to:

http://www.ripnroll.com/proper.htm

http://www.thebody.com/content/art12636.html

http://www.avert.org/condom.htm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q2HZkMjWyp8

Finally... a Brazillian Wax!

I was cntemplating it for the LONGEST time sbb tau la.. the ouchies and the price... the segan and the pricetag. U knw.. all of it..

Tapi since hubby-2-b  requested to do so. *dun ask me why.lol* I decided to tell my mom about it cz i wanted a ride to Jln Telawi, Bangsar to pay a visit to Apronbay since Connie, Tammy, Tongue-in-Chic are all raves about it. 

Some others recommended  Strip at The Curve but really i wasnt sure cz Curve is definitely lagi jauh compared to Bangsar. But ade pulak a blogger Ziling said it is there in Sunway Pyramid. However her experience doesnt seem to entice me much *shrugs*

Lynn , Shudaddict and this article writer  on the other hand loves Glitters at One Utama and The Gardens so much they kept going back!

Tapi memandangkan my time is limited nak berjalan kemana hala just to wax my va-jay-jay bare.. lols

So my mom said.. why not u Google ones in Shah Alam je.. i was like.. btul gak. hoho...

Maka, i found this lovely lass , Fatimah Tajuddin who runs this mobile spa named FlowerPowerSpa and to me her rates are reasonable since she comes to you! And that she is frenly, prompt in replying ur fb pm or sms and at the same time professional.

Hurts or not. The age old question kan..

To me, no. ( i do have high pain threshold tho..slite wincing but no screaming and i was holding a comfortable conversation w her)  But the part wen the hot wax was applied stung a moment. But the stinging from the heat kinda ripped all the pain away wen u get well..stripped. It is advisable u try dulu on a really small part of the skin to test the heat cz i din knw how thin the skin at that area is til i got blistered during the session and a small part of the skin got stripped along w the hair *yikes*

If is too hot it is WRONG for u. make sure it is hot but bearble. not till rasa persistently terbakar. Memule test a bit on ur hand, then skin "there" a bit. if ok baru truskan

Segan tak? Another age-old question.

In my case cz she was such a good sport and lepaq (she has been doing this over a year!) i felt so much at ease. And also dur to the nature of my job,im kinda used to seeing private parts of others so i figure she'd feel the same abt seeing mine. Dlm erti kata lain, takde perasaan. Cz u r used to seeing . hehe

So ape jnis Brazillian Waxing we can choose from?


pattern wise u have options as below. I chose all off *blush*

and there are choices of using hard wax and soft wax. Fatimah used honey.like pure honey. U knw the honey candy w the asam boi in the middle? Yeah, that honey, melted in the warmer pot.

I've tried hard wax before (ni DIY tapi slalu sanggup buat separuh je sbb tak sanggup nk strip sendri.hehe) and some say this is less painful but she doesn't offer this one. U can buy online tho if nak DIY i bought it during a "Drugstore" spree here .. this is the product (hard wax) i used. But u need a microwave to have it work tau. Harga if convert plus minus shipping dlm RM 30+

So y not try it! At least u can say u tried once something sooo scary (and embarassing) many shy away from. *winks*

Just gv her a text or fb pm. She'l b happy to serve u =]

Compilation of Experiences by My Wifey-Friends on Contraception

I did this small survey on like 30 ladies but the comeback was quite dissapointing. However, to those who helped..timekasih daun keladi..

So, many have been asking me over and over again regarding this topic..CONTRACEPTION. I totally understand since the nature of this blog is about wedding preps..and also bcz i am a medical student myself.

Textbook-ly speaking is easy..but when it comes to real life.. Half the things i learned becomes utter opposites..Thus this survey..

Read on to know more,ya:

Wifey 1: i used pill for contraception..x berani nk pakai IUD lg since lum penah pregnant lg..i think pill is quite safe for yg belum beranak lg..alhamdulillah so far xde ape2 effect..xtau lak in future nnt camner..most of my frens yg guna pun ckp xde side effect.jenama avianne kalau x silap..

(She is cureently married for 8 months,full time living w hubby. not yet preggie)

Wifey 2: ramai je doctors yg guna ocp dear. im using barrier method tho, works fine for me. :)as for my frens yang pakai, weight gain ada... acne n the rest not really lah.. :)

(She is a houseman a.k.a junior doctor now,married for 2 years. full time living w hubby. yet to be preggie)

Wifey 3 :to answer your question,,,i suggest not taking any birth control pills as it will only mess up your hormones and u dont know how your body will react to it,,some of my frens put on weight and also some find it hard to conceive after you get off of it...so i guess the natural preventive way and condoms will be my best suggestion,,haha,,weird that we're talking about this pulak,,hope it helps,

(she has been married for 6 months now, fully living w hubby. not pregnant as for the moment)

Wifey 4: well, to be honest.. i started with the COCP (combined OCP).. but then after about 1 year on it, i stopped coz my hubby balik msia.. after about one year later i developed a really bad migraine. classic migraine with the paraesthesia and all.. so at the moment, i cant take any more of the hormonal contraception.. 

so now use condoms je la.. to be honest, it depends on people.. if u not sure the body can accept hormonal stuff as contraception, might as well try on the COCP first.. sbb its easier to stop.. then kalo rase dah serasi with it.. bleh je take implants, or injection.. kalo malas nk makan ari2.. but then, IUD ni mostly adviced for people yg senang lupe, and at least pernah pregnant before.. condom is the best method la.. kalo ikutkan.. doesnt really disrupt ur hormonal balance, no side effects, but then have to use it properly la for a good contraception method..

there's no actual study bout how migraine n COCP related. but somehow, statistically, mmg ramai yg baru developed migraine is because of the pill..both either stopping form it, or starting.. i mmg dulu underweight.. so gaining weight is actually a bonus to me.. i dulu makan mercilon.. then change to loestrin.. actually pill ni ade byk jenis.. SE acne and weight gain pun doesnt happen to all yg amik.. and also u have the option of progesterone only pill.. which SE wise may be less..pills ni its more of a try and error.. different people reacts differrently.. so just kene berani amik risiko la kot..

(this wifey is also a final year medical student thus more explanation. not pregnant yet. but hubby is now in msia n she in UK. they were married since 3 years back but hubby n her lived together fully for 2 years b4 hubby kena balik msia to start working-she is his junior. so belom abes blaja)

Wifey 5: Hehe..masa dulu2 jumpa husband once a wk jer.so,tolak time period,brp kali je pun jumpa dia time betul2 subur..tp to be on the safe side, pakai je la condom..i nvr pakai iud,ocp, injectable hormones..takut gemuk.hahaha.tp skrg dh naik dh berat.huhu..

(she got preggie 2 years after marriage, thus the weight gain la. during the time she was a wekkend wife, she travelled WEEKLY Melaka-KL to see the hubby)

Wifey 6: my doc advice srh wat contraceptive injection 100% xpregnant tp i x wat i mkn pill atau pancut dinding jer hehe.. nyway u cn browse thru da net or consult wt doc...

(they have been married for 3 years now. living fully together but mayb nature of work that requires frequent travelling -stewardess and steward- cntributes too. she is not pregnant yet)

Wifey 7:  from my experience.. I makan pil 'mercilon', it's one of the mildest pills in the market.. Even safe for bFeeding mothers.. Ade lg satu brand jasmine kalau x silap. Tu pun mild jgak. Some ppl xnak ambil pill sbb kene mkn tiap2 hari without lupe. But for us, kalau same2 igtkan masing2.. InsyAllah xkan lupe.. 

IUD? My gynae ckp not advisable utk ladies yg blum pernah melahirkan anak.. Coz die nak masuk dlm 'sane' kan.. So utk awal2 ni.. Mkn la pill atau injection.. Injection tu buat skali 3 tahun kot.. Or ade tempoh lain..

Org tue2 slalu ckp la, jgn mkn pill la nnti susah nk beranak la sume.. Tp actually all those not proven.. It actually depends on whether u mmg subur ke tak to begin with.. So org dulu2 x penah2 check kesuburan trus blame the pills.. I asked my doc kt msia n london.. Sume pun ckp it depends on ur fertility rate to begin with..

Well, in terms of gemuk tu mmg awal2 tu trase la coz x biase lg.. But kejap je.. After I consulted a few docs.. Mmg die ckp pill tu kan regulate ur hormones.. It makes u happy in a way.. So when u're happy, u eat.. Haaa gemuk la!!

So it's all in the mind la basically.. So I pun start to eat less, exercise a lot.. Alhamdulillah turun balik cepat.. N then after tu macam biase je.. I mkn ubat for 3 years.. After I stop.. Ktrg xnak try dulu..(Gune 'alternative traditional' means).. When ktrg btul2 try.. About 3 months dah conceived dah..

Hope this helps!

(she conceived after 5 years of marriage cz they got married after A-levels then sambung wat degree..so their baby Nik Aaron was totally planned for)

Im sorry I cannot do more to help all the B2B out there but hope this can guide ur informed decisions... Good Luck!

The Menstrual Cycle..Bilakah Waktu Selamat Anda?

This came up cz one of my dear frens tanye about this since she is also a B2B. Mmg menjadik issue cz tak ramai tau bile masa yang selamat dan bila yang tak. Tup tup accident *alamak*.Bagi anda2 yang kitarannye tetap dlm 28 hari skali dtgla Cik Piyed ngn jayanye. gambar dibawah boleh memberi gambaran yang baik on the times to avoid and safe times.

Fertile times itu sila avoid okeh? Jika terlampau terpaksa sampai berasap2 telinga. Dekat di hati (dan di tangan) lah rakan baik kita Encik Kondom. Dalam entri lain I story pasal "Pamakaian Kondom dgn Betul" pulak ye!~

Kay Kamal

OCP..itu perlukah?

AMARAN: Entri ini mengandungi unsur-unsur 18SX,sekiranya anda berasa anda bakal tersinggung dgn tajuk ini,dinasihatkan bagi anda untuk tidak membacanya.Sekian.

Sebelum saya terlupa..eloklah kiranya saya menulis entry ini serta -merta tanpa berlengah..

Kepada anda yang kurang tau..apakah itu OCP? Expansion of the 3 letters would be the Oral Contraceptive Pill (a.k.a Pil Perancang). Nw,apakah yang membuatkan saya terpanggil untuk menceritakan hal pil ini pulak?

Macam ni...later (in about ayear from now), i will be a wife and also a houseman (insya-Allah kalau takde aral melintang). Jadi sebagai seorang yang sudah berumah tangga, sudah tentulah sexual activities become an intergral part of your daily living process,kan? Bagi saya adalah penipu besarla jika org yg dah kawen cakap "eh,tak kesah pon..saya hepi je tak dapat sex"..samada org ini terlampau sibuk sampai tak sempat makan dan tidur,ada masalah mental ataupun mengalami masalah libido yg abnormally low.

Jadi,it brings me to my topic...

As you know being a houseman itu amatlah sibuk sampaikan masa untuk anda mandi da memakai eyeliner pon ter-compromise..apakan lagi bershopping sakan dan pergi ke gym *okay terkeluar tajuk*..i mean that bayangkan masa untuk diri sendiri pon kena cari (bak menggali lubang cacing),nk cari masa menjaga seorang insan lain yang cukuplah fragile..(a.k.a baby la)

Maka dengan itu saya sedang memikirkan cara utk mengelakkan diri pregnant semasa housemanship dan juga tidak compromise sex-life kami..da teringat pula kata-kata Dr Som "the best choice for contraception in a newly married couple is the OCP as it has the least side effects,very efficacious and also the fertility after stopping the pill is not compromised".Lalu tercetuslah idea nak berkomunikasi dgn staff nurse di Klinik Ibu dan Anak di Ujong Pasir pagi tadi..


Dipendekkan cerita, staff nurse Salbiah yang amatla sweet dan helpful telah menelepon sister (kira ketua nurse la) di Pusat Perancangan Keluarga Negeri Melaka for further consultation...kata sister:

Pada umur saya 24 tahun yang masih belum berkahwin dan mengandung pun,adalah dinasihatkan mengambil pil tersebut sebulan sebelum first encounter (eg: kawen bulan 11 kene mula amik pill bulan 10) untuk mendapatkan hasil terbaik. Makan pil ni kena disiplin. Kalau terlepas2 takde la boleh dapat 99.9% efficacy spt yang dijanjikan.Eventhough kalau kita ikut ayat sebijik textbook kata fertility akan bounce back,menurut pengalaman sister tu,tak semua semudah itu. Ada couple yang lpas tu struggle bertahun nak try for a baby sampai kering ikhtiar. And anybody is at a risk.

So,sister cadangkan saya amik pil itu selama 6 bulan.Lepas itu sambung dgn condom je. Textbook kata condom is only 89.9% reliable.Tapi sister kata kalau pakai dgn cara yang betul boleh dapat result yg excellent. *Lain hari saya post cara betul memakai condom,ya*.Dan lagipun,bukannya stop makan pil trus ~zzup~ pregnant..it takes like 3-6 months for the ovaries to came out of the hormonal confusion. Kira kalau we do the maths,makan 6 bulan plus minus u dapat 9-12 months period of infertility la..i guess that works well for me.

Pil as i said memang kena disiplin cz kena makan sehari sebijik. And people tend to terlupa..



other alternatives include the ever popular condoms



depot progestrone injections,painful but lasts a month to 3 months with the efficacy dropping from 1st month onwards.mahal a bit



norplant/implant of progestrone rods (now the have only one rod is enough..no need like below) and it can last you upto 2 years...most expensive choice.very safe,can be implanted in the most forgetful person and its gonna work well.




So,mayb i should talk to my sweetheart sometime soon about this...*yikes* and also start berkawan-kawan dgn staff nurse so that boleh dpt OCP (free!) kat klinik kerajaan tanpa memerlukan surat nikah dulu cz nak mula makan sebulan b4 the nikah..hurm..nak target sape kat Klinik Kesihatan Peringgit (the nearest to me now) ni?



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Kay Kamal